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retread| Theory #101: Love vs. Infatuation 28 March 2008

Posted by ABD in ALBUS, Psychology, Relationships.

Retreads are quality posts from yesterweeks that are given a second run on Fridays. This is an ALBUS piece from 21 Jan 2006.

Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time. Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. One is excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. Love means trust. Infatuation is a passion bereft of inner certainty and might lead you to do things you will regret later, but love never will. Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. Love lifts you up and makes you want to better yourself because of the significant other in your life.



1. Baraka - 28 March 2008

Love is a friendship that has caught fire.

Beautiful and so very true.

2. SA'ILA - 1 April 2008

With reference to the Question of the Week, can one really love without knowledge of the said person? Is that what infatuation is – an emotion bereft of knowledge and understanding?

Albus – can AL be credited with this piece?

3. VARANGALI - 1 April 2008

Who’s AL? AL, Albus, SA’ILA, Baraka – all these code names are driving me nuts – such an obsession with secrecy…


4. ShadeofRahmah - 2 April 2008

Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection.

I don’t think I’ve read a more accurate depiction. All those song lyrics, romantic novels, love poems, epic love stories ring completely hollow because they are the very anti-thesis of the above. In other words, they are just about infatuation.

5. muppiechronicles - 3 April 2008

I’m not positive that I agree that love cannot lead us to doing things we’ll regret…so many of us make mistakes, or misstep due to love – and I’m not sure that this is due to some immaturity in feeling. I think it’s due to this total world that comes along with love that can subsume everything else….we can say that “good,” “balanced,” or “healthy” love – i.e. agape – does not make us do stupid things. But love makes people do the wacky all the time. It’s one of the major things that lead us to do the wacky…it is one of the heart’s greatest passions, and is correspondingly powerful – full of benefit at times, and danger at others.

Depends on the object. My two cents, for the two cents they’re worth :)

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